[chator]

Girls are hard to figure out, this one sounds like a real piece of work! I have no advice for you except to just go with it and see where it goes. I would suggest you don't invest your emotions too much into the relationship, she could just be toying with you.

[NCC-73515]

I am unsure of my emotions... but it feels right.

[horatio]

First you might wanna think about what you want, NCC.
Does she make you horny and do you just wanna screw her? Nothing wrong with that, just be honest to yourself (and her).
Or is she a great person, do you have common interests, a basis for a relationship? A fairly important question, I personally couldn't imagine to be together with a seventeen year old. Too immature.

Then you might tell her what you want and ask her what she wants. Might be more productive than talking with other persons about a matter which is entirely between you and her.

[kevin]

Personally such conflicting signals would get tiresome after a while.

I think it's time for a sit down conversation about what she's actually looking for and if there's yet more mixed signals I would tend to draw back and put some space down. If she becomes clearer then you can take it from there.

[vuedoc]

Originally Posted by MagaditH

I'm not trying to be rude, but I just can't help myself... You're asking for girl advice on a Star Trek board.

Thank you, Magadit- I needed a laugh like that!

I have known many girls who have sent mixed messages and it usually indicates that they are unsure themselves what they really want, but having the upper hand in the relationship seems to make them more comfortable, so they continue this behaviour. The teenaged girls I've known are either caught up in a farytale romance or are like NCC's friend, so her actions don't surprise me a bit.

NCC, I agree that you seem to be a great catch for anyone, but there is nothing wrong with experience within a relationship, even one that may appear emotionally abusive. Yeah, I've had that one too. I think it is a fundamental concept that we have to know what something bad is before we can really appreciate something good. Whatever the outcome here, you will have learned from it and this experience can be applied to the next situation, whenever it comes up.

This all reminds me- in Med school I had a crush on a girl in the class below me. I'd be speaking to her on the phone and I hear buzzing in the background, and I'd ask her if she was shaving or something, and she'd reply, "Not exactly..." and just proceed carrying on the conversation. Well, after she got all my class notes from me she admitted having a boyfriend back home. Come to think if it, I saw her on JDATE a number of years back. I sent her a friendly note but got nothing back... again. I just have to laugh at things like this today.

[janeway72]

I just want to say that considering this is a Star Trek board, you have been given very good advice so far. Maybe not all ST fans are like Sheldon after all

[NCC-73515]

Originally Posted by horatio

Does she make you horny and do you just wanna screw her? Nothing wrong with that, just be honest to yourself (and her).
Or is she a great person, do you have common interests, a basis for a relationship? A fairly important question, I personally couldn't imagine to be together with a seventeen year old. Too immature.
Then you might tell her what you want and ask her what she wants. Might be more productive than talking with other persons about a matter which is entirely between you and her.

No, my physiological reactions when she's on my lap are just supporting the idea that it could work. I don't wanna screw around. She's in command when it comes to that because she's younger.
We are getting to know each other. She kissed me right in the middle of a sentence and we snuggled around in her bed. She introduced me to her parents and brothers as "my boyfriend".
She writes me a lot and calls me sweet names

Originally Posted by kevin

I think it's time for a sit down conversation about what she's actually looking for and if there's yet more mixed signals I would tend to draw back and put some space down. If she becomes clearer then you can take it from there.

She wrote some heavy suggestions... multiple techniques

Originally Posted by vuedoc

NCC, I agree that you seem to be a great catch for anyone, but there is nothing wrong with experience within a relationship, even one that may appear emotionally abusive. Yeah, I've had that one too. I think it is a fundamental concept that we have to know what something bad is before we can really appreciate something good. Whatever the outcome here, you will have learned from it and this experience can be applied to the next situation, whenever it comes up.
This all reminds me- in Med school I had a crush on a girl in the class below me. I'd be speaking to her on the phone and I hear buzzing in the background, and I'd ask her if she was shaving or something, and she'd reply, "Not exactly..." and just proceed carrying on the conversation. Well, after she got all my class notes from me she admitted having a boyfriend back home. Come to think if it, I saw her on JDATE a number of years back. I sent her a friendly note but got nothing back... again. I just have to laugh at things like this today.

Whatever we'll give to each other is better than nothing. She never found the one and I never found the one. Now we have each other.
The thing is, she has more of a crush on me than I have on her.
I can't say I love her. That may develop, but it also may not.

Originally Posted by janeway72

I just want to say that considering this is a Star Trek board, you have been given very good advice so far. Maybe not all ST fans are like Sheldon after all

Agreed!!! Your insights are very helpful!

[DNA-1842]

Originally Posted by horatio

seventeen year old. Too immature.

Some seventeen year olds being mightily offended by sweeping generalisations over here!

I was going to give some sage advice but it has mostly been covered now. But I wouldn't be talking from experience though. That would be very weird.

[NCC-73515]

Please do.

[DNA-1842]

Where did my comment go!?

Hmm, too tired right now...