I agree. We are all guilty of that to a certain extent. There is stuff I will tolerate on Voyager but not on Next Gen.
I also agree that it is not a fatal flaw. Though I can see that for some people it is just the pinnacle of a big mountain of things not to like. I fall into the "like" category more than the "dislike."
i showed the first half of the movie to a few kids in school on the last day and they enjoyed it. So it is clearly reaching a new generation of Trekkers to be

So it can;t be that bad.