I must have to say that I ran into this with my wife when the picture came out, and I was explaining everything that was wrong with the Enterprise and she said, "Honey, your nitpicking."
My wife isn't into Star Trek other than watching the movies and having a good time, so I guess this is the real comparison.
The old TOS Enterprise and the new Abramsprise next to each other is like having an F-14 and a F-15 next to each other. Plane afficiendos know the difference right off the bat while people not so interested look at them and go, "Looks like the same planes to me."
I have seen the darkness in my soul and shine brighter for it.