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NCC-73515 01-27-2010 03:05 PM

What to do...
 
There is this girl... I've met her 8 months ago in a dancing course and haven't seen her for more than half a year. Then on the 1st we wrote each other online and I found out that she is just as lonely as I am. We both have little experience in the complex field of love because we never found anyone.
Some days ago, she wrote me that she fell in love with me back then when we were dancing, but she never dared to tell me. And she claims she still wants me!
She wanted to go see a movie with me and asked whether she could sit on my lap and kiss me then.
We went to see Trek on Thursday (she liked the trailer and there is no other good movie running here anyway, Avatar is sold out) and she didn't want too much physical contact. She quickly escaped from a gentle hug and only wanted me to hold her hand. When I brought her home, she put earphones on and listened to music while I talked to her... (WTF?!)
At her door, I stroked her face and neck, but she turned away. Then the Klingon in me claimed his rightful wrath and I asked her why she doesn't want a kiss. The answer was: "Next time..."
I wrote her that listening to an mp3 stick while the one you love is talking to you is NOT considered to demonstrate interest, on the contrary.
She apologized and wrote that she loves me.

Got any advice?

Captain Tom Coughlin 01-27-2010 03:11 PM

Hang out with her, don't push the issue to much. If she's interested, she'll give you signals.

NCC-73515 01-27-2010 03:17 PM

I don't want to be conquered, I want to conquer ;)
And she insists she loves me since 8 months... but that's only what she writes and says, not what she does.

Captain Tom Coughlin 01-27-2010 03:20 PM

Take her out and have fun. No pressure. She says she likes dancing with you, take her somewhere where there is dancing.

NCC-73515 01-27-2010 03:22 PM

I wanted to, but she didn't. Too many people there.
Thanks for your advice, though... and good night (My body wanted 6 h of sleep but I negotiated it down to 4 ;))

Captain Tom Coughlin 01-27-2010 03:27 PM

no problem, don't let the bed bugs bite

trekie 01-28-2010 10:33 PM

You can ask her what she want's and take it from there. If it is wrighting is easier for her to comunicate than do it that way. We girls forget men don't get our hits and have to staright foward tell her that in delicate words of course. Best of luck.

NCC-73515 01-28-2010 10:51 PM

WHat she wrote me was quite unsettling... she has suggested multiple techniques, as Data would say ;)

horatio 01-29-2010 04:46 AM

Perhaps she doesn't know what she wants or is simply shy? If you haven't seen each other for a long time, she might simply need some time. If you want something stable and not just some action, you should take the slow path anyway. :001_smile:

That Metal Beastie 01-29-2010 05:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by horatio (Post 297159)
Perhaps she doesn't know what she wants or is simply shy? If you haven't seen each other for a long time, she might simply need some time. If you want something stable and not just some action, you should take the slow path anyway. :001_smile:

:iagree: Nice and easy does it. Try not to be overly anxious, which should help her to be the same way, and let love (or like) flow. I've found the most important thing is communication. Express yourself honestly and take the time to listen to her. Assumptions will trip you on the path so be (resectfully) explicit with her. That way she won't have to assume your feelings, meanings or intentions. And don't be presumptuous with her; when in doubt, ask(again, respectfully).

It's gonna be alright, brother. You seem like an awesome guy.


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